Did you ever feel like you would do anything if you could just find yourself? Or did you even realize you were lost? I think from time to time we are all a little mentally absent. The question is, how do we get back to our authentic selves?
It seems obvious, but first, we must make the conscious choice to leave our pity party and reenter the adult world. Once we’ve made that commitment to ourselves, we start a plan. It’s not difficult as long as we practice the goal until our actions become a habit. According to a couple of on-line studies (so they must be true, right?) on average, it takes a little over two months for something to become a habit. That seems a little long to me, but for the sake of argument, I’ll go with it.
A good approach is to work our best with brain, body, and spirit. And, exactly how do we do that?
Staying healthy is the best way to work with our bodies. This means we get enough sleep, eat healthy foods in appropriate amounts, drink alcohol in moderation, if at all, and make healthy decisions concerning physical exercise. (I don’t think walking to the car counts as a healthy choice even though there are days when that’s my exercise routine.) We must also nourish our body with healthy relationships, and surround ourselves with positive people. It’s more difficult to be sad when around other people…especially upbeat people. It’s contagious or something.
To work best with one’s brain, we put forth our best efforts at school, work and with our family and friends. We allow ourselves plenty of time to complete class assignments or meet work deadlines. Reaching out to someone needing help, such as a struggling classmate who needs tutoring is a way we can use our brains to help others. Likewise, we can share knowledge with friends, co-workers, and family. Take a class or learn something new. If we challenge ourselves, especially with something we’ve always wanted to try like music or dance lessons, we don’t have time to be gloomy. Finally, set SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, results-focused and timely) goals and work hard to reach them.
We work our best with spirit by finding our inner peace. Until we love ourselves, we can’t truly love another. We enable ourselves to become enlightened and promote our own personal growth. We display kindness and patience towards others. We support the values in which we believe. We remain calm even when the world around us seems to be in chaos. We could pray, meditate—whatever we need to do to be mindful. Finally, we express our love for others.
Personally, I don’t watch the news or read the front page of the newspaper anymore. I’m too soft-hearted and cry at almost every news segment even the sweet ones. Even so, I still get enough news second hand to be frightened. Big picture, I know there is nothing I can do about the state of affairs our country except not engage in debates. (What good does it do? It certainly doesn’t change anything.) I don’t post political opinions on social media and I don’t get sucked in by those who do. It is their right to do so and my right to ignore it. Ignoring it certainly helps with my zen.
In other words, I don’t knowingly put myself into situations that I know will antagonize me if they are situations over which I have no control. These few things help me stay somewhat balanced. What about you? What do you do to keep your sanity?