Time to breath again


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It's been a week since my Dad died…a tough week filled with lots of tears. But during that week, and the weeks before, I heard from so many people. Today I'm dedicating my blog to all of you. I wish I could have responded to each person individually, but it has taken every ounce of resolve I have to write the notes I have to send for flowers, food, visits, etc. And I find I'm rewriting many because the ink is blurring from my tears. Of course, tears won't hurt my keyboard—at least not much. From you I've gotten phone calls and voice mail messages, text messages, private facebook messages, comments on Twitter, my blog and both of my Facebook pages, cards and notes in the mail, and more. I've…
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Goodbye Daddy


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Rest in Peace   Joel Gomillion January 1, 1935 - November 21, 2013       Memories     I will always love you. ~ Kay
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GUEST POST — People Die The Way They Lived


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Hubby's first guest post was so popular, I invited him to give it another shot. Here's what he had to say: ~ Kay “People die the way they lived.” I have heard that said, and have oft repeated it. Standing by, watching my father-in-law hang on to the last threads of life, I am wondering how this relates to his life. It is curiosity and a desire to facilitate his passing along with my natural tendency to try to control that drives this process. Is there something left unsaid or undone? Is that relevant to him? He left many things unsaid and undone when he was able. Is it now that he is leaving that he needs to apologize and say goodbye?  That was not his way in life and he has…
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With the help of angels


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One morning, earlier this week, I woke to find my mother watching me sleep. Was I still asleep, still dreaming? She didn't speak, only smiled and vanished. I think she was really here—here to help Daddy pass over. He's being pretty stubborn about it. The last day Daddy was somewhat cognitive his Hospice nurse asked if he knew who I was. First he took my hand and said, "the boss." My dad's pretty sharp and his wit has gotten him out of many situations—probably gotten him into even more. Then, he turned his clear blue eyes toward me and announced in a strong voice, "Audrey Kay Gomillion Jones Elam." Wow! My heart melted because he'd been going in and out. We weren't sure how much he was really "with" us. Then…
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GUEST POST — What is Love?


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Hubby is my rock. Always has been. I suspect he always will be. Not surprisingly, he has been amazing during the almost two weeks we've been in Florala waiting for my father to die. He's anticipated my needs before I knew I had them. He's held me, let me cry, talked with me for hours at a time, let me rant and rave--all without a single complaint. He left his job to come with me (he can somewhat work remotely). He's kept my spirits up, kept me focused, and helped me remember just how important these last days with a parent are. We lost his mom this time last year, so he knows what this process is like. She spent three months in Hospice, but lived only an hour from us…
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Picking up the pieces in a broken family


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My parents divorced when I was in high school.  Another woman was involved. To my father's credit he waited until I had been out of college a couple of years before he married her though I learned this week the affair had gone on for many years before they were married--years while he was married to my mother.  Daddy's wife had her own family: a son older than me, and two younger daughters. Because my sister and I were older, we were never really integrated into his new family. Had we been invited, I doubt we would have accepted due to loyalty to our mom. We already had a family. Through the years, especially after our Mother's death, Sis and I have been around Daddy's wife's family some, but there…
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A Room With A View


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Before I started elementary school, my parents purchased a house on East Fifth Avenue in Florala across a side street from the high school. Their logic—my sister and I wouldn't need cars to drive to high school; we could walk. A few years later the high school was relocated across town and a hospital built in its place. So much for planning! But that was my childhood home for 12+ years. It was where my mother lived until her stroke. When Hubby and I came to town last week and realized Daddy was so near the end of his life, we decided not to return to Nashville unless he vastly improved which isn't likely. We called my sister in Seattle who made arrangements to fly down immediately. I had a friend…
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When you must go home again…


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If you read my last blog you know I am in the town where I grew up, waiting on the imminent death of my father. It is unbelievably sobering to realize my sister and I are about to become orphans. Granted we are in our 50's and this could have happened much earlier, but it's happening now and now is when I am feeling the pain. Our mom had a stroke back in 1986 that left her physically (and partially mentally) incapacitated. She never went back to her home where she lived alone. We moved her to a facility a few miles from where me (about four hours from her home). She was never thrilled with us "forcing her" to leave her house, her friends, her church.... She  still had…
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Thank you


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...To ALL our men and women in uniform  who serve and protect our country and to those they leave behind to keep the home fires burning.     [caption id="attachment_6303" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Our son, the Marine, and his beautiful wife[/caption]       [caption id="attachment_7638" align="aligncenter" width="167"] Our son and grandson on deployment day[/caption]
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Personal update


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If you follow me on Facebook, you might have seen that Hubby and I went to Italy for three weeks to celebrate our anniversary in October. I posted several updates, but few pictures (couldn't get them to upload right) from this romantic trip we'd been planning for years. Originally the trip was to have been last year for our tenth anniversary, but Hubby's mom was put into Hospice care and we didn't dare leave her. We had a similar decision to make this year as my father has cancer and was facing a surgery, possibly while we were gone. Up until the day we left, I went back and forth about whether or not I wanted to be that far away from him. When he found out we were considering…
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